“Be curious, not judgmental.”

Walt Whitman

Dear one,

I’ve always known Whitman was a wizard, but those four words contain some powerful magic.

There’s a difference between being curious and judgmental. Curiosity is borne out of a desire to learn, whereas being judgemental is being critical of something you don’t understand or don’t want to. I always strive to understand people and things, especially those that trigger a desire to judge. There is a series of questions I ask myself when I feel compelled to judge someone. Maybe they will help you, too:

  • Why do I allow someone’s personal choices to affect my mood?
  • Why do I feel like I know what is right for someone else?
  • Why do I feel responsible for the choices others make about their lives?
  • Why do I feel as though someone is responsible for making the choices that I feel are right?
  • Why do I become so attached to outcomes that I get angry at others for making decisions about their own lives?

Never forget that I love you, and that excludes no one.


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Michael Nolan is The Sentimental Dom. He wants you to keep your chin up, treat everyone with dignity, compassion, and respect, and drink more water.

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