From this hub, I will talk about anything that may be deemed adult. With that in mind, it’s not a place for children or anyone else who lacks the maturity to handle frank discussions about life, relationships, sex, and other related topics. Beyond that warning, I don’t plan to censor myself. This is my playground and you’re a guest. Make wise choices.
All existing content will be linked, so if you see something below that does not have a hyperlink, it’s something I am working on that is not yet finished. If you have questions or comments, please leave them as comments on the related page and be sure to include a way to reach you if you’d like a response.
IMPORTANT NOTE: If you start feeling something that doesn’t sit well with you while you’re here, please visit my page on Emotional Aftercare.
- How to Reverse an Overdose
- Owning Up: My Story of Addiction and Recovery
- Secret Lovers: Addiction in the Queer Community
- Who Controls the Power Grid? The Intersection of Addiction, Sex, and Power Exchange
This page contains some of my original works of adult fiction, generally those that involve leather, fetishes, and kink.
For those who want to know what I’m into, this is a page that discusses my personal areas of interest relating to sex, kink, and power exchange.
An explanation of the personal code by which I live my life.
Thoughts on life and some of the lessons I’ve learned.
The inherent stigmas related to kink and fetishes are not accidental. They have been part of the framework of our mental health system from the beginning.
A brief exploration of consensual enforced abstinence.
The undeniable foundation of healthy interpersonal relationships, and yet so many of us don’t communicate well.
- The Language of Relationships
- Understanding Healthy Communication
- Opening Communication
- On Boundaries and Ultimatums
- Talk Pervy to Me: A Kinkster’s Guide to Communication
Domination and Submission 101
This six-part series is an explainer of the basics of the power exchange dynamic.
- Part 1: An Introduction
- Part 2: The submissive
- Part 3: The Dominant
- Part 4: Service is a Mirror
- Part 5: On Respect
- Part 6: Navigating Negotiation
A brief explanation of the fetish for financial domination.
Hypnosis and Mindplay
The mind is my favorite playground. In this section I will explore all things related to mind control.
Tor & Ralph
- Part 1: Stranger Than Strangers
- Part 2: Setting the Stage
- Part 3: Beauty in the Breakdown [coming soon]
- Part 4: Goodbye is a Motherfucker [coming soon]
A series on having multiple intimate partners simultaneously.
The Spirituality of Power Exchange
This is where I explore the intersection of power exchange and spirituality.
- Part 1: Witness, Pause, Decide
- Part 2: Finding Your Energy
- Part 3: Control
- Part 4: Control Continued
- Part 5: Exploring Space
Taming the Monkey
A guide to overcoming the ‘Mind Monkey’.
- Calm the Fuck Down
- Let’s Talk Science
- Relaxation: The World Won’t Stop
- Relaxation: Basic Techniques and Exercises
- Relaxation: Advanced Techniques and Exercises
- Acceptance: It Is What It Is and I Am What I Am
- Kindness: Give a Damn
- Exercise: We Can Work It Out
- Exercise: Motivations and Such
- Service: Give It Away
- Service: So Easy, Even a Dom Can Do It
Why I don’t like and don’t use the term.
We all have it, and we all need to better understand it.
- Why We Don’t Know Who We Are
- Consent Is Not Optional