Dear one,
The phrase “holding space” gets tossed around a lot these days. To hold space for someone is to be fully present and aware, conscious and available. To not interject your opinions or directions, just to exist alongside someone who might benefit from your presence.
What if it became second nature to hold space for others, especially those who trigger feelings that are uncomfortable?
I’m not sure why our defaults tend to be set toward negativity, but there is no prize awarded for being the most put-upon. Constantly calling out things that others say or do is not a good look; it ensures that we cannot see or appreciate the person.
I love Lizzo’s line, “If I’m shinin’ everybody gonna shine.” Let’s be unapologetically happy for others to be themselves without dampening the moment with, “yeah, but…”
Others are allowed to live their authentic lives without our approval.
Never forget that I love you, and that excludes no one.
Love,
