Last week I attended an event that brought together four queer authors for a night of readings. The selections I heard were poignant and starkly impactful, but I drove home with something else on my mind.
I thought about my decision to reemerge in the leather and kink world after a decades-long hiatus. I thought about who I have become in that time. I thought about people like David Holland and Demetre Daskalakis and Tony Mills, queer and kinky doctors who seamlessly merge the different parts of their lives, unapologetically embracing their queerness alongside their professional education and expertise. I thought about Stephan Ferris, a queer adult film star and author who became an activist and entertainment attorney.
I thought about the responsibility that comes along with queer visibility.
I thought about how having a visible example when I was young might have saved me from a lot of heartache.
I thought about my own life and accomplishments, and smiled at the realization that I have reached a point in my journey that affords me the luxury of being open about who I am.
I thought about this website and this blog, and the conversations it has started.
Never forget that I love you, and that excludes no one.