It seems as though judging others is a default setting for many of us. What I learned is that being judgemental is a distraction technique built into a defense mechanism. More often than not, a judging statement says far more about the speaker than about the target.
If you have a “dirty secret” to hide, you want to draw attention away from yourself. When you see something (or someone) that reminds you of that dirty secret, your defenses go up and you look for ways to turn the attention anywhere but on yourself.
Being judgemental is the result of a subconscious decision that what you think and believe is somehow better, more relevant, or more important than the autonomous decisions of others. That’s not a good mental space to be in.
Never forget that I love you, and that excludes no one.