Healing and self-care are important to our health and well being. Know what else is important? Owning our own roles in the struggles, the pain, and the suffering we have experienced. I’m in no way disregarding the experience of people subjected to suffering at the hand of an abuser, but owning our own shit matters. Too often, people mistakenly believe that you can’t both hold yourself accountable and forgive yourself, when in fact you can’t forgive yourself without owning up.
Never forget that I love you, and that excludes no one.