Saw this image on someone’s timeline and I felt compelled to use it as a teachable moment. To accomplish that, I added the word NOPE to it. I get the pseudo-empowerment idea behind the original meme, but it’s flawed, selfish, and self-absorbed finger wagging from the start. What if “some” have a full emotional plate and don’t need to take on your burdens for their own well being? That’s self-care and that’s healthy. That’s setting boundaries, and as I have said before, saying no is not easy for givers.
If “some” don’t have the time to talk to you, think objectively about the reasons, without the emotional attachment. Are you being consistently need-driven in the relationship? When was the last time you checked in with them about their needs without inserting your own? Take a look and you just might see that “some” are just taking care of themselves which isn’t selfish, it’s literally SELF CARE.
Never forget that I love you, and that excludes no one.
Love,
