I was noticing recently how easy it is to allow social media to become an overwhelming dopamine flood of what we find perfect or ideal. Take a look at your feed and not how many of the profiles you follow on Twitter or Instagram have ‘perfect’ bodies, or they are constantly posting ‘perfect’ photos in idyllic settings with other ‘perfect’ people. Last week I began unfollowing some of those accounts because I don’t think the constant subconscious messages they send my brain are healthy for me.
For me, I find it important to surround myself with real people dealing with real life in real ways. People from all walks of life with all sorts of life experiences who are human and struggle like many humans do. Don’t give me a barrage of photos with a dozen filters; give me stretch marks and bad hair days, because those are real.
It’s ok to look at people who have traits we admire, so long as we use them as an inspiration and not an opportunity to make ourselves feel like a failure.
Never forget that I love you, and that excludes no one.